My boyfriend HARDLY ever have !..he turns me down?

ok i need to rephrase the question, we do have , but its 3 times per month, i want it 3 times per week, im in my ual peek hes 28 im 32 we have been together 4 years lving 1 year, this has been the issue in our 4 year relantionship!..i know hes not cheating but he does masturbate,he would rather instead of being with me?..i have tried talking to him,but i get no asnwers , im hoping you gentle men can shine somelight on the subject..im one foot out the door!..I WISH i can just be intimate with any other man or use "toys",but i dont want that,its not satisfiying I want and love him,but the pain is unverable id rather leave him than be turn down by him, its messing with my mind